Tuesday, 28 June 2016

Blame - Quotes


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Blame is the granddaddy of the victim behaviours. You cannot address problems until you stop blaming others or yourself. Blame is the opposite of problem solving, even when the content of the blame is justifiable. Blame is the essence of the victim experience, and this experience is the basis of immature social behaviours. When you feel like a victim, you pass off responsibility to others for solving your problems or you attempt to escape. - James R. Baugh

It is the act of an ill-instructed man to blame others for his own bad condition; it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed, to lay the blame on himself; and of one whose instruction is completed, neither to blame another, nor himself. - Epictetus

One of the annoying things about believing in free will and individual responsibility is the difficulty of finding somebody to blame your problems on. And when you do find somebody, it's remarkable how often his picture turns up on your driver's license. - P. J. O’Rourke

We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who's right and who's wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, with all kinds of things that we don't like about our associates or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others. Blaming is a way to protect our hearts, to try to protect what is soft and open and tender in ourselves. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground. - Pema Chodron

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