Tuesday, 29 May 2012

Divorce

Divorce is an embarrassing public admission of defeat. - Tracy Letts

Divorce is like cutting off a gangrened arm to save the rest of the body. - David Knox & Caroline Schacht

Divorce is one of the most stressful life events anyone goes through. Only the loss of a loved one and moving are even in its class, difficulty-wise – and divorcing generally involves both of those as well. Even when you are the one initiating the divorce, the enormous changes that result are bound to throw you off and leave you feeling, at the very least, a bit lost. - Emily Doskow

Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship. - Gary Chapman

Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. - Jennifer Weiner

Divorce lawyers stoke anger and fear in their clients, knowing that as long as the conflicts remain unresolved the revenue stream will keep flowing. - Craig Ferguson

For a couple with young children, divorce seldom comes as a “solution” to stress, only as a way to end one form of pain and accept another. - Fred Rogers

Going through a divorce is like having every aspect of your life played back. Anything you have mishandled or regretted is talked about by everyone as they try to figure out who was right and who the innocent party really is. The comfort you once experienced is gone completely. There are many choices for new comfort, but most of them have no value except introducing new addictions or pounds of fat or guilt. - Kandace Cooper

Grown-ups are worried that they're going to ruin their children's lives, but divorce is just a life experience and you learn from it. - Evan Stern

In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find and continue to find grounds for marriage. - Robert Woodruff Anderson

I've been through divorce and will always be a "divorced kid".... For me, my parent's divorce was hard at first, but I overcame my sadness and my fears about it. I know that my parents are happier apart. And I'm happy with the way things are, too.... Divorce can sometimes be for the better. You may end up with happier parents, and you will definitely learn a lot about yourself! And that's the whole point of growing up. So if you think about it, there are reasons to be happy about this experience, if you can learn and grow from it. - Zoe Stern

Many divorces are not really the result of irreparable injury but involve, instead, a desire on the part of the man or woman to shatter the setup, start out from scratch alone, and make life work for them all over again. They want the risk of disaster, want to touch bottom, see where bottom is, and, coming up, to breathe the air with relief and relish again. - Edward Hoagland

No matter how you slice it, divorce is expensive and time-consuming. The most important variable is how well you and your spouse are able to put aside your anger and grief and cooperate on the big issues of money and children. The better you are at working together to make decisions for your changing family structure, the better for your bank account and for your chances of emerging from the divorce with a decent relationship with your ex. - Emily Doskow

The best advice I have for other parents going through a divorce is that the kids need to know that both of their parents are good people. It’s easy to set the example of kindness and love and respect when the things are good. So if you can do that when things are hard, and wholeheartedly support their relationship with the other parent – you're showing them a certain kind of resiliency. - Bradly Whitford

The divorced person is like a man with a black patch over one eye: He looks rather dashing but the fact is that he has been through a maiming experience. - Jo Coudert

The obvious effect of frivolous divorce will be frivolous marriage. If people can be separated for no reason they will feel it all the easier to be united for no reason. - G. K. Chesterton

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