Thursday, 23 July 2020

Control Your Anger

When we are angry, we want to express our anger, to punish the person, or thing responsible for our anger. We wrongly believe that they are the cause of our anger, and suffering. So, we want to say something, or do something to punish the other person, so that he suffers too. However, the other person will respond in kind. Thus, the fight begins. And it will not end well for either.

It is inevitable that we get angry once in a while – especially when we are provoked. Anger is a natural reaction. However, we must learn to control our anger. If we could remain calm, and not let the words or actions of others get to us, then we can avoid the ensuing unpleasantness.

Bear in mind that when you are angry, it is best not to say anything or do anything. We usually regret words spoken, or actions done in a fit of anger. Whatever we say or do in a state of anger will only cause more damage.

In anger we should refrain both from speech and action. - Pythagoras

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. - Unknown

He overcomes a stout enemy who overcomes his own anger. - Aristotle

Others don’t make us angry. There is no force involved. Becoming angry is a conscious choice, a decision. Therefore, we can make the choice not to become angry. We choose! - Lynn G. Robbins

Indeed, we are responsible for our own anger. We can choose not to be angry, not to let the unpleasantness get to us. We have to let go of the resentment.

Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten. - The Buddha

The moment we get angry, we lose your peace of mind. Sometimes, this last but a while. Sometimes, it last for days. You go about fuming, angry with the incident, with yourself for losing your anger. You lost your precious peace of mind. So, every time you feel yourself getting angry, tell yourself it is not worth the peace of mind. It is always better and wiser to ignore, or walk away from the source/cause of your anger.

Anger is a negative energy. Being angry, and harbouring all the negative energies is not beneficial to anyone, least of all to ourselves. Once we know how these destructive emotions affect our health and our well-being, we should make an effort to curb our anger.

Every time you get angry, you poison your own system. - Alfred A. Montapert

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned. - The Buddha

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. - Seneca

When anger rises, think of the consequences. - Confucius

More importantly, remember this, for this is very true…

You will not be punished for your anger. You will be punished by your anger. - Buddha

The intoxication of anger, like that of the grape, shows us to others, but hides us from ourselves. - John Dryden

When you are tempted to get angry and feel frustrated with those around you, take a moment to think about your own faults and shortcomings. This will help you to be patient with others.

When thou art above measure angry, bethink thee how momentary is man’s life. - Marcus Aurelius

When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, count a hundred. - Thomas Jefferson

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